Where To Run When Motivation Stops?


Have you ever found yourself in a place where nothing can make you move? A state where not acting, not thinking and not breathing seem to be perpetual. There are such moments, and it seems to me that they always happen when I need them the least and must act fast.  At these times, I keep wondering what is the tool and what is the way to break this powerless feeling of not being able to start moving, especially to start moving things to your advantage.

One time when I was at such pondering state goggling and facebooking aimlessly, I came across of a text where this quotation by Natalie DeBruin stood.

                                             “Motivation is the push. Inspiration is the pull.”

They just stood there, my pushing motivation and pulling inspiration, inviting me to push myself and let the inspiration pull. And it came to me: when I was a little kid, I hated doing squats, and there they were, every single PE class starting with squats. What I did was stopped thinking about the squats, but about my legs working; they were burning and they were burning less every time. I kept thinking about my legs, not about squats, until they stopped burning. It was then when I came to a conclusion that it will be like that with all the exercises, the more you do it the less it will burn and that is exactly what happened.

The key to what would keep me going was there, I found it when I was a kid. Could I apply it now, to the grownup me, to the serious issue? Believe it or not, yes.

Start by disciplining yourself. A skill you need to learn and to apply when crisis strike. John  Rim says on this subject “Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” but maybe one of the best quotes is by Brian Tracy who says that self-discipline is :”The ability to do what you know you should do, whether you feel like it or not.” The people you know and the people you have been hearing about succeeding in life, they have all managed to overcome the drive to do what is fun and do what is necessary and productive instead.

Also, think about WHYs, WHATs, WHENs, HOWSs and outcomes. What you wish, what you need, why do you want it and what will you do with it.  What you do not need discard, walk away from it. If you cannot use it, lose it.

Give yourself a pep talk. If nobody else will, you should. The author of the book A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation, Mike Jeffries says “One pep talk per day is all you’ll need to help you become the person you want to be.” Tell yourself how awesome, brave and capable you are, and the sooner you start believing in it, the quicker you will become more productive.

One more strategy is to think about your task as if it was a grocery list. Do not whine about the things you need to do but approach them unbiased. Set yourself with a task as if somebody else has set it up for you.

Lastly, do “Benjamin Franklin”. This is what I like to do. Benjamin Franklin is the person from the past I would like to meet if I had a chance. Why? Because of the way he started and ended his day. Every morning while still in bed, he would ask himself a question: “What will I do today?” And when going to bed in the evening, the question was: “What did I do today?” It is a very powerful tool to show you where you are and where you are headed